“Get over yourself. You’re the man for the job.”
These were Theresa’s words to me last week. She’s got a knack for saying exactly what I need to hear.
I was preparing to speak at two banquets this week. One was for the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and the other was for Youth For Christ.
I felt honored to be speaking to two organizations I believe in. The problem — I just didn’t believe in myself.
It wasn’t due to a fear of public speaking. I actually like that. It was due to the lie that I’ve got to have it all together before I do something like speak on a stage.
I thought, “I’m not spiritual enough. I’m not disciplined enough. I need to be further along in my walk with God.”
I’ve heard the same lie before. When I played basketball, it was, “If I’m not playing terrific then I can’t be a vocal leader.” Or, “I have to eliminate all my mistakes before I can challenge a teammate.” In business, it’s “I need more experience and more knowledge before I can confidently talk on that issue.”
Of course, leading by example is necessary. Knowledge is important. Experience is beneficial. A level of maturity is crucial. But sometimes I use the fact that I don’t have it all together or could be further along to hold me back from ever getting started or speaking up or using what I do have.
At the heart of it, I’m not even sure if the main problem is focusing on what I lack or where I perceive I’m not yet ready. I believe the problem is focusing primarily on me.
Great speakers talk for their audience. Great leaders use their voice for their team. Great businesses are focused on providing value for their clients.
I’ve had a couple coaches who frequently said (yelled 😄), “It’s not about you!”
It’s a good reminder that cuts right to my pride and self-centeredness.
It’s not about you – but about them. You aren’t perfect. You don’t have it all together – but you are the person for the job. Just remember to get over yourself.
Alright, now you’re ready to go, to speak, to lead!